tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5663467220657766220.post8365074579711609667..comments2022-11-11T02:55:26.545-06:00Comments on DLouisianaT: Why I Keep My Mother at Homedenesehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13446358076804777198noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5663467220657766220.post-6873630284367685812013-12-17T20:24:45.376-06:002013-12-17T20:24:45.376-06:00This comment has been removed by the author.denesehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13446358076804777198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5663467220657766220.post-44662379951992203242011-05-24T20:53:20.342-05:002011-05-24T20:53:20.342-05:00Shanna, thank you for reaching out. It is the most...Shanna, thank you for reaching out. It is the most Godly and appreciated things that we humans do. I have a lot of support, both from on-line groups and our family therapist. But, writing helps. <br /><br />Remember your grandmother as she was when fully present. That is my goal with my mother.denesehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13446358076804777198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5663467220657766220.post-33880864173255127642011-05-24T14:06:30.366-05:002011-05-24T14:06:30.366-05:00Wow - I know what you're going through, believ...Wow - I know what you're going through, believe me.<br /><br />Though my family's such woes ended in 1999, when my great-grandmother finally passed away, we dealt with her illness (Alzheimer's) for over 10 years. We saw her slip away, bit by bit and piece by piece, until she - the last few years of her life - was curled-up in a fetal position, unable to communicate.<br /><br />It was a heartbreaking to see this strong, funny, sweet, hard-working Cajun woman become what she did but none of us regret the experience.<br /><br />We put her in a home only once during the decade we had her with us and she was suffering through the disease and it was right after she fell and broke her hip. After a year, we brought her home for she was dying and slipping away from us there at a terrifyingly sped-up rate.<br /><br />We kept her at home and had nurses aides (bless them!) come 3x's a day to help with her basic needs. It takes an enormous toll on a family deciding to keep an ailing Alzheimer's patient at home and my heart goes out to you. Have you looked to see if there are any local, or even online, groups that you might be able to find some solace and understanding in? Back when we were fighting through this, it was all still quite new and there were not as many resources for family members of Alzheimer's patients as there are now. I urge you to reach out and find a local or online community filled with others going through the very things you are. It really does help to know you're not alone.<br /><br />Best to all of you; I know how difficult it can be and it's never an easy decision to keep a ailing loved one at home.Shanna Rileyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03916290538975113238noreply@blogger.com